How long has it been since you saw or talk to your parents? That long huh? Is there a special reason why you haven't interacted with them in such a long time? OK, Wow. No, UHH. Well, just so you know, you are not the only person in that situation. For whatever reason, we have all been hurt at some point in our life. Unfortunately for some of us, the hurt came from the people who should protect us and love us the most, our parents. Many of us, too many of us have avoided seeing our parents for one legitimate reason or another. So no, you are not unique, nor are you a bad person.
Yes, we should avoid company that limits us as individuals. We should avoid people who try to trample our self esteem and make us feel less valuable than we really are. If someone is not supportive of our dreams, legitimate dreams, and does not care to help provide moral support when we desperately need it, why should we want to see them? Well, I don't want to sound like a preacher, but remember the word FORGIVENESS?
Oh, yes. I am here to try to help by discussing thoughts and ideas to try to help make you feel more empowered by the act of forgiving. I am not able to get into the why or because, as everyone will most definitely have a different reason for their hurt. We will just talk about how. How do we work through all of this built up resentment, and sense of abandonment that so many of us feel? One tried and true way is by forgiving. True forgiveness helps us reclaim our emotions and get back in total control. The ultimate freedom that only you can give yourself.
Right now, we need to try to make the healing begin. So we will do this for us, not them. We need to heal, not them. Notice I am using we? Yes, there are a few things that I was mad at my parents for but I have worked through them, and even though it was not easy, I am at the place where forgiving is easier than I thought it could ever be. You can get there too! How do you do that after all this time? It's not easy, but it can be done.
Look within yourself. Who is this long held resentment hurting more? Them or you? Think about it for a while. Now, why are you hurting just thinking about it? See what I mean? It hurts you more even though you did not realize it before. What do you need to do to feel better? Let it go! Go ahead, scream, cry, yell, no swearing now though. Oh well, do whatever feels and works best for you. Realise that you don't have to call or write to do this. Just tell yourself, you have had enough of this.
Enough of the daily resentments. Enough of the blaming. Enough of the negative attitude. Enough of you blaming and resenting people who you have no control over. Try not to blame them for what you have become if you don't like yourself. But thank them if you like who you are. Your parents helped to make you. You are their product. Forgive them for what they have done to you, or didn't do for you and free yourself. Now.
This is about you, giving yourself permission to get rid of negative tension so you can begin to feel better. You don't need anyone else to release you from your hurt. All you need now is a positive you.
I am suggesting that you try to pray, because this is the one thing I know that really, really works. It does for me. It can for you too. Yes, ask for the strength to forgive. You may never accomplish that on your own, but with a little divine intervention you certainly will. Yea, I remember you... You do not pray you say, so what now? How do you handle this?
Good old tried and true meditation works wonders. Look deep within yourself. Give yourself permission to release the hurt. Release the pain. Reclaim body, mind and soul and be the best person you can be. You don't have to forget the hurt to heal. You just need to forgive it. Do it now and be free. You deserve to feel free and happy. After all, you have worked so hard to improve your life. Go ahead and reclaim it. Take the power back. Begin to feel good, like you haven't in a long time.
After you let it go, you might begin to look a little younger and feel more energetic. Enjoy the freedom. Revel in the good vibes. Now reach out to someone who you know is in pain. Continue to feel free and happy. You have earned the freedom. Contentment is a wonderful feeling. No more excuses!