Domestic Violence Consequences - False Reporting Matters

2/10/2011

Domestic Violence Consequences - Even False Charges Matter.

If I did not witness this myself, I probably would never believe it. I was in the parking lot of a local area strip mall when a well dressed, woman drove up in an SUV and got out to stand in front of another car in the parking lot. She left a child in the back seat and went pounding on the other car drivers' side window.

The person in the car was hardly visible due to the tinted windows. After pounding on the window for a while she walked towards her car, ripped her blouse, used her long fake nails to scratch her neck, chest and face, she slapped the child and he started screaming. Then she got on her cell phone and started screaming and yelling for the police. I doubt that the person in the other car noticed what she was doing as she was to the other side of her SUV.

I wasn't being nosy, but this was rather strange, so I got in my car and just decided to wait a while. Wow. The police were there so fast and she pointed to the car where she was pounding on the window. They swarmed the car and ordered the driver out. A well dressed man got out and she yelled, 'yes it's him, he just beat me up and threatened to kill me.' She even had the nerve to tell the police that the person sitting in that car,' me' saw him do it. I told them I didn't see anything like that but they didn't give me a chance to say what I did see.

I wanted to tell them that she was the criminal for slapping the innocent child and making a false police report. It really rested on me for a while, that anyone, a woman, a mom, would be so evil. That anyone would exploit the judicial system to take revenge, punish, or victimize another person like that. Mind you, I don't know what happened at the house, I only saw what happened in the parking lot. The man did nothing wrong in the parking lot...he seemed to have been trying to protect himself from HER when he remained locked in his car.

Well the police took a good look at her, and asked if she wanted the paramedics and to my amazement, she said yes. They placed the man in handcuffs even though he kept telling them he did nothing wrong. He left the house to get away from her and she followed him to the parking lot just to cause trouble. I felt sorry for him, because the police believed her as she had 'signs of abuse.'

That innocent man was arrested for domestic violence and abuse, including child abuse because she told them he slapped the child too... I certainly would testify on his behalf if I had gotten the chance. The police believed the woman..because they told him, if it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, looks like a duck, it is a duck! So sad.

I am putting this information here because I have heard some sad stories, and I have a very strong feeling that there are many of you out there, men and women, who are being victimized in this way. My heart goes out to you if you are innocent and got hurt by a fake Domestic Violence charge.

Domestic violence is legally defined as abuse, threats, or violence that occurs within an intimate relationship. Victims and offenders of domestic violence can be male or female. This form of abuse can occur between spouses, intimate partners, siblings, or close relatives.

In most cases, domestic violence is classified as a misdemeanor. However, charges can be amplified if the offender somehow has a prior criminal record, has committed or has been accused of past domestic violence offenses, appears to have caused extensive bodily damage to the victim, or is accused of abusing a minor (person below the legal age), such as a child, or abuse of the elderly.

Domestic Violence Consequences
If you are an abuser and hurt the people you are supposed to protect and love, you deserve to go to jail. But if you are innocent, your life can be ruined with a fake charge. Once a person is convicted of domestic violence in South Florida, he/she can be punished with:

jail time
imprisonment
fines
community service
probation
mandatory counseling
house arrest
restraining orders

Protect Your Best Interests
If you are not an American citizen, this is really bad for you, because you can get deported. This can also affect your ability to keep your present job, get a decent job or even make you become evicted, depending on where you are renting. If you work in health care, you may even end up loosing your license, and your ability to earn a decent living.

Due to the severity of the legal consequences involved, it is always to your benefit to speak with a qualified criminal defense attorney after you have been charged with domestic violence. For those of you who are innocent like that man mentioned above, pray for divine intervention.

I am strongly against Domestic Violence. As a survivor of Domestic Violence myself, I am an advocate for all those who suffer from this disgusting epidemic, but I dislike injustice. Too many of you are hurting legally because someone without a conscience did you wrong. Pray to find it in your hear to forgive them. Do not let it eat away at you. God will provide healing and redemption. He will pull you through ...if you are innocent.

By hiring a criminal defense attorney, who has successfully handled numerous other domestic violence cases, you will safeguard your best interests. You will also be informed of any possible defenses involved in your case that could help you fight your domestic violence charges in court. Additionally, you will ensure that your rights and future well-being are protected.

Even if you are innocent, going to a trial by a judge, taking a suspended sentence, probation,...accepting any kind of plea, is just as bad as pleading guilty. Contact an experienced Criminal Defense Attorney If you are innocent and have been charged with a domestic Violence Offense. You need to be acquitted by a jury trial to prevent future legal ramifications. You owe it to your future to take care of the situation correctly.

I am an advocate for suffers and survivors of Domestic Violence. This post was meant for informational purposes only. If you need legal advice, you must find a qualified professional to handle your situation.

8 Comments

Sabastian

3/7/2012 10:08:10 am

Man...really wish you had tried a little harder to tell the cops what happened..or somehow got his information so you could have testified on his behalf..that was the whole reason you stuck around..we pretty much know that your testimony would have got him off and discredited her...but since you didn't, who know how it played out..i would bet he is totally screwed

Debs link

3/7/2012 11:09:10 am

Hi Sabastian,

I know how you feel, because I felt like that too when I received the email with the information. No, I did not witness that scene, because I would definitely make the cop listen. Someone who I know told me about the incident. I asked her to send me the info in an email and she did, and asked me to post it 'as is', so it looked like I witnessed the event, but it really wasn't me.

Anyhow, I should have posted a follow up since I got a surprising update months later. I was informed that the man who was arrested came back to the same parking lot looking to find the car with the unusual sticker that he saw the day of his arrest. He found it since the email sender usually frequents that strip mall. He left a pleading note under her wiper with a detailed explanation of all the charges he was facing.

She decided to help him as he already reported that there was a witness who could clear him. He and his lawyer searched for the car and luckily, he found her. She did not go to court but she wrote an affidavit detailing what she witnessed, had it notarized, gave him a copy and put the original in a sealed envelope for the judge.

He did not go to prison. He kept a copy of her affidavit to show his employer and anyone who matters. Last time she heard, he was working on having the whole messy charge removed from his record.

He said he had threatened to divorce the woman in the parking lot, which she was afraid he would do, so she lied about the abuse, to use the info for immigration purposes. They actually had a heated argument at the house over what he considered inappropriate text messages she kept receiving from another man. He had also learned that the child in the car that day may not be his biological child, and he couldn't handle that news, so he left the house upset, and she followed him.

So it worked out OK for this person, unfortunately there are many more like him who are victimized every day. We can only pray for those who are falsely accused.

Melody Tilman

4/13/2017 06:57:34 pm

I after 20 yrs of physical abuse called 911 one night because he wouldnt stop hitting me. All I did was defend myself during that he some how received a very tiny cut o. His chin. I mean maybe one eighth of an inch big and he had already been arrested for domestic violence on our adult adopted children to the officers who came to him from our church of course he lied and I went to jail. The charges were finally dropped but it is still on my record and because of a misdemeanor back when I was 19 I can not have my record sealed. I have since been told by a very reputable man that the ex told him that he hit me every time he got mad and when I called 911 I never hit him I was just defending myself. How can someone get a faults charge amended on their record? I went from being upper middle class two just above poverty. And when someone has a domestic violence charge on their record just because it is a charge you cannot rent from any government entity. What if anything can I do? This happened around 5 to 6 years ago and my life went into a tailspin. I ended up with abused wife syndrome and PTSD. I am by know means crazy. I retired after 30 years with the electrical utility on disability due to all this. Is there anything a person can do..Thank you

Ward R. Mizell

2/21/2013 10:47:50 am

I would first like to say thank you so very very much for addressing this issue. I'm very impressed by how courageous you are, to suffer domestic violence as you have, then advocate for a different kind of victimization. I was a full-time Dad. Nothing in my life ever meant more to me than my role as daddy. I have two amazing, smart, and special boys. My oldest son is nine, my youngest is six, they love me so much and I love them more than words could express. I'm proud of how bright, compassionate, talented, honest, and kind my boys are.(that's the short list) They are a blessing to this world from The Lord, I miss them so much... My wife and I have been separated now for over two years. Our divorce and everything concerning the children has been tied up in a Judicial nightmare for as long. When our marriage fell apart, she decided to accuse me of a list of crimes as long as my arm. When our "meltdown" occurred she first threatened to call the police, tell them lies, and have me incarcerated. I then tried to call the police myself, realizing the volatility of the situation. I'm not very large, 5'11" @ 155lb. She is larger than me, about the same height. When I attempted to call the police, she wrestled the phone from my hands and threw it into a pile of laundry down the hall. Although she screamed, yelled, made threats and blocked a 911 call, there was no physical violence committed by either of us (ok, she threw a bowl of dog-water at me, and my wrist was scraped when she wrestled me for the phone, I'll survive). I simply turned around, walked to the front door, grabbed the keys and proceeded to the nearest police station. (Vacaville, CA) If your a man, do not enlist their assistance as I did, go to a neighbors house and call from there if possible. Inform the officers involved that you will be documenting the experience and wary of discrimination based issues on the part of authorities. (especially in Vacaville) Avoid coming across as accusing the officers of sexual discrimination, it is beneficial to the process and your future to take careful notes and document everything! What could possibly cause the woman I married 10 years ago to commit such a destructive, harmful, selfish, and evil act? A number of things, in my opinion. Neither of us were very good communicators to one another. I didn't know how to be assertive and she is a very controlling person. Neither of us knew how to appropriately see our needs met. The only thing we really had going for us was our parenting. When our children occasionally misbehaved, we lovingly gave them a verbal correction. If they pushed boundaries further they sat in "time-out", and in the incredibly rare occasion they continued misbehaving, we revoked privileges. There was never a need and certainly no desire for violence in our home. She elected after having two beautiful boys, to have a form of permanent sterilization done. Neither of us realized that the procedure would send her into early menopause. Her behavior quickly became unbearable. She began yelling at the kids, and seemed to have no patience for anyone or anything, especially me. We tried marriage counseling, but any time there was even the slightest suggestion by the therapist of work she needed to do on her part, she became indignant. When her grandmother passed away, she just lost it. I did my very best to compassionately communicate to her how it was affecting her and me and our marriage, I told her that she was going through difficult times and that I didn't feel qualified to help her through it alone. I asked her to see a therapist about what she was enduring. (there were other challenges as well in other aspects of her life that I will not mention).
The next morning I took the boys to school as usual, when I came home. Our marriage and the life I cherished with my boys came to an end. As you may recall she threw my phone and I drove to the police station. I showed them the scrape and they looked at me like I was a wimp. She called the police as soon as I left for the police station. When they arrived, she claimed I was being abusive and tried to run her over. Since things didn't happen the way she claimed, there was no evidence of her accusations, the police did not care. We didn't realize it, but we handed ourselves and our children over to a cold, cruel and unjust revenue accumulation process. Vacaville is a bankrupt city, in a bankrupt county, in a financially crippled state, in a country going thru recession. The system is no longer viable and has become self-serving. I'm concerned for my kids, who supposedly are in therapy for abuse allegedly committed by me. Although charges were dropped against me due to "lack of evidence" I have had a horrible time finding a job, and many of my other rights have been affected. The worst part is, she doesn't allow me to see them (nothing in any court order backs this, I just have no options without a lawyer or a functioning judicial system) She used to allow

Prianca

5/16/2014 12:25:15 am

Hi,
First of all i really admire your courage to help yourself out of the dark pit and helping others to do so. Since you yourself are attorney i hope you could answer my question in this regard. Few days back due to my in laws i was very upset and very much depressed which led me to argue my husband.I want to make it clear he is very much loving and caring. Because of my persistent crying and arguing he got annoyed so it continued long but there was no physical or verbal abuse.Somebody from our neighbour called the police(we live in apartment, walls are too thin) as we were new there nobody knew us. And i tried to explain the police everything i mentioned above and made it clear that its not an abuse case i am just depressed because of my in laws but later on i came to know that he made a report and gave me a report number. I want to know what happens to this report number? does this come in my or my husbands record? when will the report number deleted?
I will really appreciate if you could enlighten me in this regard.
Thanks.

6/10/2014 09:59:00 am

My family is going through similar situation at hands of a lady, who slaps false DV charges every time attempt is made to see minor children. She lost all but she does not have to face any consequence so for for trying to distroy the life of innocent man and his family. At the same time minor children are suffering because of who she is. Can't disclose identy because of custody case in the court.

Annmarie

3/17/2016 10:47:14 pm

kelvin warren

10/29/2016 10:19:59 pm

my GIRLFRIEND36 MYSELF 56 WE HAVE 3 KIDS SHE IS ILEGAL HERE IS USING VAWA TO MAKE FALSE ALLEGATIONS ON ME RAPE SO SHE GET HER GREEN CARD FOODSTAMPS HOUSING I DON'T KNOW WHO TO TURN TO FOR HELP I AM BEING SCAMMED PLEASE HELP ME HOU TX
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