Creating Intimacy, Creating Distance - Part 2

Creating Intimacy, Creating Distance - Part 2


FACTORS WHICH PROMOTE DISTANCE BETWEEN PARTNERS:

• lack of attention to one another and the relationship
  
  
• lack of respect for one another and the relationship
  
  
• lack of healthy verbal communication
  
  
• lack of physical contact
  
  
• lack of eye contact
  
  
• lack of passion, excitement and fun together
  
  
• verbal, physical and/or emotional abuse
  
  
• predictable, routine interactions
  
  
• few expressions of caring & tenderness
  
  
• unexpressed feelings
  
  
• avoiding conflict or avoiding resolution of conflict
  
  
• avoiding time alone together
  
  
• presence of unspoken or unresolved anger and resentment
  
  
• unexpressed or unrealistic expectations and assumptions
  
  
• being afraid to ask for what you want
  
  
• saying and/or doing only what you think your partner wants
  
  
• lying, deceiving, game playing, passive aggression
  
  
• trying to change your partner's basic character
  
  
• stifling your partners' growth as an individual
  
  
• blaming your partner for most or all of your relationship/life problems
  
  
• ignoring the impact of your family of origin on your relationship
  
  
• assuming your know what your partner thinks and feels
  
  
• living in the past
  
  
• emphasize problems and negativity